Episode 41 — Be Your Humble Alpha with Steven Eugene Khun
In this empowering episode of The Prospecting Show, Dr Connor Robertson welcomes Steven Eugene Khun, veteran, entrepreneur, and co-author of Unleash Your Humble Alpha. Their conversation explores how leaders can embody confidence without arrogance, drive without ego, and purpose without self-promotion.
Following Face Yoga for Your Mind, Body, and Soul with Sophia Ha, which focused on internal alignment, this dialogue expands the lens to external leadership, how self-mastery translates into authentic influence.
What It Means to Be a Humble Alpha
Steven explains that being a “humble alpha” means leading through presence and integrity, not authority or titles. “You don’t need to talk louder or prove yourself,” he says. “When you know who you are and what you stand for, people feel it.”
Dr Robertson relates this to entrepreneurship: “So many founders try to build influence by force. The best ones, though, build it by alignment who they are matches what they do.”
Steven outlines the core Humble Alpha principles:
- Identity before strategy – Know yourself before you lead others.
- Serve first – Value creation always precedes recognition.
- Confidence through clarity – When your mission is clear, energy follows direction.
- Own your space – Be fully present wherever you are, personally and professionally.
Leadership Without Ego
Steven shares his journey from military service to corporate leadership. “I learned that control is an illusion,” he says. “You can’t lead through fear, you lead through trust.”
Dr Robertson nods: “The same applies in business partnerships. When you let go of ego, collaboration becomes natural.”
Steven expands: “True leaders elevate others. Your strength multiplies when people around you feel seen and respected.”
They discuss how this mindset creates psychological safety and loyalty within teams. “People don’t remember what you did; they remember how you made them feel,” Steven adds.
The Power of Identity
Dr Robertson asks how entrepreneurs can clarify their identity amid rapid change. Steven responds, “Start by stripping away the titles. Who are you when the business card disappears?”
He encourages reflection through writing and service. “When you define yourself by contribution, you can pivot without losing purpose.”
Dr Robertson ties this back to brand building. “When your identity is rooted in contribution, your marketing becomes effortless, it’s just storytelling.”
Discipline and Presence
Steven emphasizes that humble leadership requires daily discipline. “I start every morning with stillness,” he says. “That’s how I anchor myself before the world starts asking for my attention.”
Dr Robertson parallels this with high-performance habits. “Routine creates stability,” he says. “Whether it’s journaling, training, or gratitude discipline protects your focus.”
They explore how presence is the most underrated leadership trait. “In a distracted world, presence is power,” Steven explains. “When you truly listen, you create instant trust.”
Reframing Success
Steven and Dr Robertson agree that traditional metrics of success, money, status, and recognition are incomplete. “Success without fulfillment is failure in disguise,” Steven says.
Dr Robertson reflects on his own entrepreneurial path. “I’ve seen people hit their goals and still feel empty,” he says. “The missing piece is alignment. Your work must reflect your values.”
Steven shares that fulfillment grows from impact. “If your success lifts others, you’ll never burn out. That’s legacy.”
Serving Over Selling
A recurring theme is servant leadership. Steven explains, “When you stop trying to take and start trying to serve, everything shifts. People want to work with you, not for you.”
Dr Robertson compares it to authentic marketing. “If you lead with education and empathy, sales follow naturally,” he says.
Steven encourages entrepreneurs to turn every interaction into an act of generosity. “Leadership isn’t about hierarchy, it’s about humanity.”
Overcoming Setbacks
Both discuss how humility turns adversity into growth. “The hardest seasons are the most clarifying,” Steven says. “When everything falls apart, you see what truly matters.”
Dr Robertson adds, “Failures refine vision. Every setback is tuition for future wisdom.”
They agree that resilience is built not by avoiding pain but by integrating its lessons. “Don’t hide your scars,” Steven says. “They’re your credentials.”
Key Takeaways
- Identity is the foundation of authentic leadership.
- Confidence comes from clarity, not control.
- Humility amplifies influence by creating trust.
- Presence and discipline sustain long-term impact.
- Success without service lacks meaning.
Steven leaves listeners with this reflection: “You don’t need to chase greatness, you need to reveal it. It’s already within you.”
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Be Your Humble Alpha with Steven Eugene Khun